The ultimate value of counselling
for me is the risk that both counsellor and client take to meet each
other on a human level to share and appreciate the experience of living.
Secondary to this is ensuring that I am professional and accountable
in terms of the relationship and help that I offer.
I worked as
a Primary Care Counsellor in the Chichester and Worthing NHS from 1999
to 2006.
I gained a
psychology degree in 1987 and before training as a counsellor worked
in the health service as a facilitator, working to improve the quality
of the service for patients. I did my professional training in Devon
achieving an Advanced Diploma in Integrative Counselling. I am now an
accredited member of the British Association for Counsellors and Psychotherapists
My qualifications include:
I abide by the British Association
for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) Code of Ethics. As recommended
by the BACP I have regular supervision and undertake my own personal
therapy.
The types of issues that
people have brought to counselling with me are depression, anxiety,
relationship problems, family difficulties, abuse, bereavement, eating
problems, obsessive behaviours or self harm. We have looked at the strategies
they used growing up that helped them get what they needed or helped
them survive. We have looked at how those strategies were useful then
but may create more problems now and looked at ways of living using
different strategies.
Inspiration and Learning
My learning and inspiration
has come from many sources and over many years. Having worked over thirteen
years in the health service I feel passionately that we are only helpful
to others if we have what we need ourselves. Too many doctors, nurses,
therapists, teachers etc feel stressed and exploited in their working
environments and become burnt out. Counselling can help people step
back from their situation and work out what they need in order to have
a balanced and healthy life.
The majority of my learning
comes from my clients who take a risk to open up with often very painful
memories, feelings and thoughts. When another shares what they imagined
to be unbearable feelings and work through these to truly grapple with
the reality of life we both gain in terms of a deep connection and acceptance
of the world and other people.
I am a mother and step mother.
In the same way that paid professionals can get burnt out if they do
not have what they need for themselves I believe that parents, and in
particular mothers, often experience low self-esteem, lack of confidence,
isolation, guilt and resentment and a reduced experience of joy in parenting
if they do not get their needs met. I have learnt much from my parenting
experience and the help that I received from counselling.
I enjoy and have integrated into my work ideas from Transactional Analysis,
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Gestalt, and Systemic Theories.
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